Here's the thing about forgiveness, it is really basic. You must forgive those who have hurt you, because if you do not it will make YOU sick, literally! Unforgiveness only hurts YOU. Yes, YOU. The other person is walking around living their life while you are in pain reliving the issue. Let it go, and let God handle it! I am not saying it is easy; unforgive-ness coupled with deep emotional anger can be powerful opposition. But every time you think about it, talk about it, or reiterate it, you are damaging your own body by making your immune system weak.
The Bible says in Mark 3:27, “No man can enter into a strong man’s house, and spoil his goods; except he will first bind the strong man, and then he will spoil his house.” In other words, if you are walking in the strength of God, nothing can harm you unless it binds you first. Unforgiveness is a way to take you off your game, binding you so that you can be robbed of the principles you hold dear. It is a way of tying your spirit down, weakening your armor so you cannot receive the blessings God has planned for your life.
And, since I know how difficult it can be to forgive someone who has damaged you to your very core, here's my advice. Every time you think about it, want to talk about it, or start to reiterate the incident, stop! Start to pray for that person instead, and don't forget to pray for yourself. I know it sounds a little corny and a little too simple; however, keep doing this every time the issue rears its ugly head. Eventually, you will be able to dismiss the issue.
I must tell you, if the person has damaged you more than once, and seems to continuously travel in this direction, depending on the hierarchal position that you have placed them in your life, you may also have to dismiss them; or, get used to spending a lot more time on your knees. L.
Study Reference: Matthew 6:11-15
From: "The "F" Word." In the Master's Hands; 365 Daily Devotions for Everyday Living.
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